Control Orders
[This was a beautifully topical title when I first planned to write this entry. The entry is composed in my head while showering most mornings but even the residue is gone by the time a small boy is in bed and I get to the computer.]
After I started this blog I was, naturally, fired with excitement about all the things I was going to write about. I have lots of things of a non-world-shattering nature that are still a big deal in my daily life that I want to talk about and think about (with help). I hit a problem: they were all things I would have had a problem with my husband, Eb, posting on his blog.
About a year ago I was concerned about the things he was putting up for all and sundry to read. I didn't 'get' the blog thing. I was paranoid, privacy conscious and generally obstructive and controlling. I may have ranted. At least I managed to realise my double standard before putting things up but it means I haven't posted for a while.
We haven't yet resolved the problem of what things about each other and our son should make it to the world via a blog. I don't think the answer is that just that because I now want to blog too it is all OK. I do have some privacy concerns, particularly when it comes to Son One. By virtue of age he has no say in this, no ability to participate or reply, and a blog could (although unlikely) hang around as a record for some time. I am sure other people have thought about the privacy and family thing with blogging - any ideas?
I have seen a couple of blogs by couples but this isn't going to work for us. Pseudonyms are obviously in use already (no consensus on one for our son though). I know my family will read the blog intermittently and others who know us will too. Strangers might by accident.
As a PK I know how awful it was to worry about having your life appear as a sermon illustration. Are cute anecdotes on a blog any different? Any wisdom gratefully accepted.
After I started this blog I was, naturally, fired with excitement about all the things I was going to write about. I have lots of things of a non-world-shattering nature that are still a big deal in my daily life that I want to talk about and think about (with help). I hit a problem: they were all things I would have had a problem with my husband, Eb, posting on his blog.
About a year ago I was concerned about the things he was putting up for all and sundry to read. I didn't 'get' the blog thing. I was paranoid, privacy conscious and generally obstructive and controlling. I may have ranted. At least I managed to realise my double standard before putting things up but it means I haven't posted for a while.
We haven't yet resolved the problem of what things about each other and our son should make it to the world via a blog. I don't think the answer is that just that because I now want to blog too it is all OK. I do have some privacy concerns, particularly when it comes to Son One. By virtue of age he has no say in this, no ability to participate or reply, and a blog could (although unlikely) hang around as a record for some time. I am sure other people have thought about the privacy and family thing with blogging - any ideas?
I have seen a couple of blogs by couples but this isn't going to work for us. Pseudonyms are obviously in use already (no consensus on one for our son though). I know my family will read the blog intermittently and others who know us will too. Strangers might by accident.
As a PK I know how awful it was to worry about having your life appear as a sermon illustration. Are cute anecdotes on a blog any different? Any wisdom gratefully accepted.
posted by Hecta at 3:08 AM
8 Comments:
I recommend having a listen to this Emotional Life session from BloggerCon IV. There are a whole bunch of stories about blogging and privacy including quite a few by couples who blog.
The best piece of advice from the session was "Don't blog what you don't own" but the whole thing is fascinating listening. Highly recommended.
I almost forgot, there is a small amount of bad language in that recording so you might want to consider son number one when listening.
thanks Peter
No worries. I'll be interested to hear what you decide.
Wow. Yeah, I blog no juicy bits and when I even look like I might be - I get in trouble!
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A well written and well thought out post.
Yeah, the whole privacy thing is a bit tricky. How about I try not to get too grumpy about it? :)
Thanks for stopping by on my blog.
It's great to have another fellow blogging mama around...
The only reason I have time to blog is that I work part-time and my clients (uni students) quite regularly don't show up...
Look, I realise it's not good to rush these things, but I wonder if it's time for another post.
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